MAybe It’s Time Really To Own Something

You’ll Own Nothing and Be Happy. They’ll Own Everything and Be Rich.

What Replaced the American Dream – And How It Was Monetized

A video trending on social media this week shows a woman breaking down over her student loans:

This isn’t a failure of personal responsibility. This is the designed outcome of a system built to drain your wallet.

After I published my previous essay, readers shared their own moments of realization. Mine came years ago at a car dealership when I tried to pay cash and they looked horrified. I was proud I’d saved enough to pay in full, but that pride turned to confusion when they treated my cash like a problem to be solved. The salesman spent ten minutes trying to convince me to finance at some absurd rate, and I left confused. That’s when I understood – they don’t want transactions anymore, they want relationships. Permanent, extractive relationships.

The woman in the video – her 17% student loans and my confused car dealer are the same system – built to keep us paying forever. Both scenarios reveal the same truth: the economy has been restructured to prefer debt over ownership, subscription over purchase, permanent extraction over finite transactions. She’s paying $1,500 monthly on loans that only grow. She’s not failing the system – the system is rigged against her.

Not that long ago, I genuinely believed fractional ownership could democratize access to assets. Coming from tech, I was naive about who would control these systems and how they’d be weaponized. What I documented in The Boomer Mirage (which showed how ownership was systematically priced out of reach) was just the setup. Today I want to show you the punchline: how the people promising “you’ll own nothing and be happy” engineered a world where they own everything and get rich.

The American Dream wasn’t killed – it was privatized.

The New Paradigm Revealed

The goal was never a secret. It became the defining mantra of the era, famously captured by tech analyst Tom Goodwin in 2015: “Uber, the world’s largest taxi company, owns no vehicles. Facebook, the world’s most popular media owner, creates no content. [Amazon], the most valuable retailer, has no inventory. And Airbnb, the world’s largest accommodation provider, owns no real estate. Something interesting is happening.”

What was ‘interesting’ was a sophisticated money grab disguised as innovation.

The Bait and Switch

It took me years to realize they hadn’t just priced us out – they’d rebranded exclusion as lifestyle choice. Cultural institutions aided the switch. Magazines, TED Talks, influencers all praised “freedom from stuff.” Suddenly ownership became materialist while minimalism evolved.

The pitch was seductive. “What if you could share your city?” Airbnb’s founder asked at a 2016 TED Talk. They sold the idea of belonging and overcoming stranger-danger bias. But the financial model wasn’t about sharing – it was about creating a global platform to monetize spare rooms and, eventually, entire homes, turning community assets into revenue streams for distant shareholders, one 15% service fee at a time.

People were taught to think “Why would I want to be tied down to a mortgage?” without realizing they were choosing permanent rent instead. The pitch felt liberating on the surface, but step back and the timing reveals everything. This wasn’t accidental messaging. The rebranding happened precisely as ownership became mathematically impossible.

The Generational Handoff

When I mapped the timeline from my previous analysis, the coordination became obvious. As rates fell during the Boomer era, many in my parents’ generation built wealth through ownership – buying homes, owning cars outright, financing that decreased over time. Gen X caught the tail end of that system. Millennials and Gen Z were offered ‘access’ instead.

The generational trends are stark. While Boomers participated in systems that built wealth, younger generations largely participate in systems built to extract wealth – renting everything, subscriptions forever, financing that never ends.

A few years ago, I did an audit of my finances and realized I was paying $400 monthly for software I used to own. Adobe Creative Suite, which I’d bought once for $600, was now costing me $240 annually forever. That’s when the pattern became undeniable. This wasn’t market evolution – it was coordinated replacement of an economy they deliberately broke. The same institutions that killed homeownership now profit from the rental economy that replaced it.

The $3,000 Nowhere

My younger cousin makes $65,000 a year – decent money by most standards. He showed me where his money goes each month: $1,800 rent, $600 car lease, $400 in subscriptions, $200 in various app fees. That’s $3,000 monthly going purely to access and subscriptions – with zero assets to show for it.

His grandfather’s $3,000 monthly would have bought a house, built equity, created generational wealth – even adjusting for inflation. His $3,000 disappears into other people’s portfolios every month. This isn’t coincidence – it’s wealth extraction disguised as convenience.

When Fractional Ownership Works

I’ve seen fractional ownership work – when the community controls it. Community investment pools where local capital stays local. Cooperative models where members build actual equity stakes. Tool libraries with ownership shares. Community land trusts where members gain wealth while preventing speculation.

I became fascinated with DAOs and liquidity pools in 2020-21 because they seemed to offer genuine community ownership. But governance turned out to be the killer app – who controls the system determines whether it builds wealth for participants or extracts it.

The difference isn’t the technology – it’s who captures the value. These models work because participants gain equity, not just access.

When It Becomes Systematic Extraction

The math is simple and brutal. I tracked Airbnb’s money flow: host gets $100 per night, platform gets ~$15, community loses significant housing stock value. My car research showed leasing versus buying over ten years: $60,000 in payments versus $35,000 purchase with $15,000 residual value. I realized I’d paid Adobe $2,400 over ten years for what used to cost $600 once.

That car dealership epiphany became my lens. I started seeing the same financing-over-ownership push everywhere – local wealth flowing to distant platform owners. Every industry had flipped the same way. The “sharing economy” didn’t emerge randomly. It launched precisely as ownership became unaffordable. The founders weren’t hiding their extraction model – they were celebrating it.

The vision was laid bare in public filings like WeWork’s. Their mission wasn’t just to rent desks, but to create a “new ecosystem for how we work, live and grow.” They sold “access” to “community” and “inspiring spaces” – all intangible concepts – while capturing hard financial value from long-term leases. It was the perfect model: take on long-term assets, slice them up, and rent them back to a generation that could no longer afford them.

The Rent Is Watching You

But there’s another benefit of this model for those who oversee it: unprecedented data extraction. Rental relationships generate surveillance that ownership never did. Every transaction becomes trackable, every behavior monetizable. Car leases track where you drive, software subscriptions monitor usage, streaming services record preferences.

The pattern is clear from digital surveillance systems – rental often means monitoring. The data extraction isn’t accidental – it’s the business model. Your information becomes another revenue stream while you get poorer. Total visibility is the hidden cost of never owning anything.

The Debt Trap Amplifier

But the problem is deeper than cash flow. It’s about the systemic preclusion from building equity. The psychological weight of this system is crushing – watching your payments build someone else’s equity while you stay trapped. Student loans plus housing costs lock entire generations into permanent renter status.

This isn’t accidental. The debt trap feeds the rental economy perfectly: Can’t buy → must rent → wealth flows up → even less able to buy. It’s a self-reinforcing cycle designed to convert ownership into access, assets into subscriptions.

The Exit Strategy

The system may be rigged, but alternatives exist. Here’s what people can actually do:

Join existing community programs – Community land trusts, cooperative housing projects, local investment pools that keep wealth in the neighborhood.

Start cooperative buying groups – Pool resources with neighbors to purchase tools, equipment, even vehicles collectively with shared ownership stakes.

Investigate equity-building alternatives – Community-supported agriculture with ownership components, local time banks that build relationships and shared value.

Support platform cooperatives – Driver-owned alternatives to Uber, host-owned alternatives to Airbnb, cooperative alternatives to extraction platforms.

These aren’t utopian theories – they’re working models already building real wealth for participants instead of distant shareholders.

The Choice

Understanding the extraction machine is the first step toward starving it. The technology isn’t the problem – who controls it is. The same urgency from my previous analysis applies here: the outcome isn’t predetermined, it’s being decided right now.

Every “sharing economy” innovation should face one question: Who actually gets rich? We can build alternatives or keep enriching the extractors.

They’ve designed a system where they’ll own everything and be rich while you own nothing. But we can design something better.

From:    https://stylman.substack.com/p/youll-own-nothing-and-be-happy-theyll?publication_id=24667&post_id=170493869&isFreemail=true&r=19iztd&triedRedirect=true&utm_source=substack&utm_medium=email

Some De-Cluttering Tips

How to Let Go of Clutter and Simplify Your Life

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You know what I recently noticed? That I am no longer attached to material things like I used to be.

There was a time when, because I was attached to every little thing that I possessed, I would get so mad whenever someone would take my things, use them and at times break them. And oh my, all the drama that was created around that. But now I no longer care.

Even though I can afford to a lot of ‘stuff’, I have reached a point in my life where spending my money on all kind of physical things no longer excites me. In fact I seem to get a lot more excited when I give my things away than I do when I buy them. I guess this is what happens the moment you begin to understand that you are more than your possessions and that your value doesn’t come from how much ‘stuff’ you have but from who you are internally.

“Out of clutter, find simplicity.” ~ Albert Einstein

We live in a world that teaches us that more is better and that the more we have, the more valuable we become and the better our lives will get. But where is the peace in that?

Where is the peace in always striving and never arriving? Where is the peace in never being satisfied with what you already have and always wanting more, more, more? Where is the peace in allowing your material possessions to control you and your life instead of you being the one in control?

When is enough, enough?

“Be content with what you have, rejoice in the way things are. When you realize there is nothing lacking, the whole world belongs to you.” ~ Lao Tzu

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that we should all give our material possessions away and live on the streets. That’s far from it. What I’m saying is that we shouldn’t waste our lives working so hard to make money, just so we can spend those money on gathering a lot of stuff and clutter our lives. There’s more to life than hoarding a lot of ‘stuff’.

“A man is rich in proportion to the number of things which he can afford to let alone.” ~ Henry David Thoreau

Living in a constant chase to acquire more stuff is exhausting. It makes you think that where you are, who you are and what you now have is never enough and that you should seek to have more, do more and become more.

It’s a trap.

“But here’s the thing–no matter how many possessions you have, you never feel secure. As soon as you get one thing, there is always something else you “need”.” ~ Karen Kingston

I don’t know if you’ve noticed this or not, but there are many people who  give way too much importance and value to their material possessions. And that’s only because they take their sense of identity, their value and their worth from all of those things.

When you have no idea who you are, and what really means to be a valuable and worthy human being, you can’t help but think that the value and quantity of your stuff says a lot about your value.

“You alone are enough. You have nothing to prove to anybody.” ~ Maya Angelou

I think it’s very important for people to understand that your value doesn’t come from how much stuff you have, how shiny it all is and how much you paid for it. Your true value comes from the fact that you were once born into this physical world and that you are now living and breathing on this beautiful planet. That’s where your true value comes from.

You are a valuable and worthy human being not because you hoarded a lot of physical things but because you were once born.

We are all here for a reason. We are all here because each and every one of us has a purpose to fulfill. And that purpose and that reason isn’t about us gathering a lot of ‘stuff’ and then allowing that ‘stuff’ to clutter our lives and to keep us from walking on our life path.

There’s nothing wrong in having beautiful things and allowing those things to give more meaning and color to your life. But if you fall into the trap of allowing your material possessions to keep you from honoring yourself, your purpose and from creating the life you were meant to create, than that can become a problem.

“Never again clutter your days or nights with so many menial and unimportant things that you have no time to accept a real challenge when it comes along. This applies to play as well as work. A day merely survived is no cause for celebration. You are not here to fritter away your precious hours when you have the ability to accomplish so much by making a slight change in your routine. No more busy work. No more hiding from success. Leave time, leave space, to grow. Now. Now! Not tomorrow!” ~ Og Mandino

Work on making the relationship you have with yourself and your life path more important than the relationship you have with your material possessions. Never allow your attachment to your material things to keep you from going where your heart wants you to go and from doing the things that your Soul came here to do.

If life ever asks you to relocate. If your hear your heart telling you that you should leave behind the life you are now living and the many material things you are currently clinging on to so that you can start a new life someplace else, dare to listen. Trust the wisdom of your inner voice and trust in the wisdom of life. Because that’s what life is really all about.

“You can only lose what you cling to.” ~ Buddha

Love your things. Let them beautify and give more meaning to your life. But never allow them to get in the way of you living the life you came here to live. Never allow them to burden you, to control you and to keep you from living the simple, beautiful and meaningful life you are meant to live. Never use your attachment to all your physical possessions as an excuse of why you can’t do the things that your heart, soul and intuitions are asking you to do.

“As you simplify your life, the laws of the universe will be simpler; solitude will not be solitude, poverty will not be poverty, nor weakness weakness.” ~ Henry David Thoreau

Source: “Let Go of Clutter and Live a More Simple Life,” from purposefairy.com, by Luminita D. Saviuc

– See more at: http://theunboundedspirit.com/how-to-let-go-of-clutter-and-simplify-your-life/#sthash.ORwsMDZi.dpuf

Small and Varied Houses

6 Ideas for Sensible Homes

Small, supportive, affordable, recycled—and you can build your own.
Ella on the Porch photo by Dawn Jenkins

Photo by Dawn Jenkins.

Sensible Home #1: It’s Small

Ella Jenkins is building the home of her dreams. It has pine floors and a yellow front door. And it’s 130 square feet, mobile, and currently sitting in her parents’ yard.

Jenkins, 23, is building her little house with the help of her stepdad after years living in college dorm rooms and couch surfing while she studied music in Scotland. She knew her degree in Scottish harp music and Gaelic singing would not be especially marketable, and she found Southern California rent to be “staggeringly high.” “I could not support myself doing what I want to do when I need to pay rent,” she says.

Family and friends weren’t initially sure about her building her own house. Her parents were worried. Her sister thought she was nuts. “I’ve never built anything in my life,” Jenkins says.

But her stepdad, Rick Lanes, has been helping out since she began construction in September, lending his tools and helping her frame her house while she lives with Lanes and her mother in Frazier Park, outside Bakersfield.

Though she’s faced constant challenges in home construction, and “near-death” experiences with ladders, she hopes to be finished with her home this summer. And she hopes it will be an end to the constant moving that comes with young adulthood and earning money as a street musician. “Right now everything’s totally up in the air,” Jenkins said. “What I love about the tiny house is it doesn’t change, it’s your house.”

Ella's House photo by Dawn JenkinsPhoto Essay: 
Follow Ella as she builds.

Along the way, she has found ways to cut costs. In addition to borrowing her stepdad’s tools and experience as a carpenter, she has found fixtures inexpensively on the Internet, and her neighbor has helped with electricity and plumbing. Recently, she found a manzanita branch to use as her front porch post.

On top of gaining a home for herself, Jenkins developed a strengthened bond with her stepdad. “It’s been such a fun year. I’m going to be really sad when I have to leave.”

Though it may not be everyone’s dream house, it’s just what Jenkins wants.“I just feel this wonderful feeling of peace,” she says of her house. “I just walk in and feel it’s huge.”—Lynsi Burton

Sensible Home #2: It’s Not Owned By a Bank

 

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Ameen’s president Ajaz Khan at the co-op office. His own house is pictured second row, far left.

Photo by Paul Dunn for YES! Magazine.

Six years ago, Ajaz Khan, an engineer in Santa Clara, Calif., was trying to figure out how to buy a home without violating the Islamic law prohibiting usury, which effectively rules out conventional mortgages. How do you buy a home without a mortgage, especially in pricey Silicon Valley?

He turned to Ameen Housing Co-op, the nation’s first Islamic real estate investment trust. Ameen purchases primary residences with money from other homeowners and investors within the Muslim community. A typical homebuyer puts down 30 percent and then rents the home from the co-op based on local fair-market rents. Part of the rent goes to pay the investors and part goes to buy back shares of the house. All that mortgage interest that would have gone to a bank—one of the largest budget items for middle-class households—becomes, instead, modest quarterly dividends for investors, keeping the money within the community. After the final shares have been bought back from the co-op—this has taken as little as three years and as many as 11—the house is appraised, and the gain or loss in value is shared.

So far, 15 homes have become fully owned by members since Ameen began in 1996, and 25 more are in process. Ameen currently funds only four houses per year. Khan is now the volunteer president of Ameen and works with homeowners when they have financial difficulties. “The whole intent is to help provide homes. The goal is not about profit or loss,” he said.

The idea of communities stepping in where mortgage banks have failed seems to be catching on. Khan has had recent inquiries from Muslim and non-Muslim groups about how to set up similar cooperatives. “Any group of people can do this, especially if they can put helping each other above profit.”

Sensible Home #3: It’s Built With Reused Materials

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Video: Recycled Houses

Raid the dump, not the lumber aisle.

Dan Phillips is a rare hero of the built world. He combines artistry, eco-thinking, and social justice in his company Phoenix Commotion of Huntsville, Texas, which builds— crafts, actually—one-of-a-kind homes made 80 percent from construction site cast-offs and landfill-bound materials. He builds them specifically for low-income families and requires clients to help him build the house. His ultimate goal is to challenge the  building industry. Freed from the “tyranny of the two-by-four and four-by-eight,” he says, we can build a house out of anything. And he’s proved it.


Sensible Home #4: It’s Not Full of Stuff

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Theologist Dave Bruno wrote the book on minimalist living. The 100 Thing Challenge: How I Got Rid of Almost Everything, Remade My Life, and Regained My Soul documents his family’s rejection of consumerism and its quest to get unstuck from all the stuff they had accumulated by paring down to 100 things. “For years I lived with stuff instead of contentment.” Through the book and his guynameddave.com blog, he is guiding thousands of people through “The 100 Thing Challenge,” directing earnest discussions such as “does each fork count as one thing, or is silverware one thing?” He gets a lot of questions about what stuff to get rid of, so YES! Magazine asked him what he decided to keep among his 100 Things. His answer: Books. “Our lives are such wonderful stories. There is nothing like a physical book at home.” Also, comfortable furniture, for family and friends to tuck into for a long conversation. He knows some minimalists who have only a couple of chairs and a bed. “If we’re going to invite people into our lives and tell them that they are more important than stuff, we should be able to offer them a place to comfortably hear about it.”

Sensible Home #5: It’s a Hub

window.jpgIn Seattle’s Belltown neighborhood, busy markets and concert halls are just minutes away by foot. Ferries, light rail, and buses are, too. It’s not surprising that housing in Belltown generally comes with a big price tag, but the Apex Belltown Co-op offers affordable, communal home ownership. Apex emerged from the efforts of a group of artists looking to create low-cost housing. With loans from the city of Seattle and the National Consumer Cooperative Bank, they purchased and converted the 1909 Apex Hotel into a cooperative home with 21 living units and shared bathrooms and kitchens. Current members range in age from 19 to 50, and they share all aspects of building ownership. After a refundable “buy-in” share price of $2,472, members pay a rent-like sum between $259 and $583 per month. The fee goes toward whatever members agree upon as a group, from utilities to a party and event budget to toilet paper. Members share lives, too. “Outside the day-to-day organizational things like meetings that bring people together, we have potlucks, play games and do crafts together, or go to a neighborhood bar,” says Aaron Long, a current member. “You see your neighbors all the time.” Shannan Stoll

Sensible Home #6: It’s Supportive

 

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Carmel Sullivan and her son.

Confronted with post-divorce anxieties about living alone, Carmel Sullivan started connecting with other single moms. In addition to a shared sense of loneliness, Sullivan learned of the harsh living arrangements many single mothers were in. She felt there should be a reliable resource to help single mothers connect with one another for shared living. Enter CoAbode.org, whose mission is to provide support and services that connect women raising children alone. Through partnerships with organizations around the country, CoAbode connects single mothers with affordable housing, support groups, educational scholarships, and community outreach. The online membership application is free. Once a good housing match has been made, mothers either move into a new living space or into one of their existing homes. They pool finances and resources to improve living conditions for themselves and their children; they share meals, household chores, and parenting responsibilities. According to Sullivan, “The difference between what we are helping to facilitate and just ‘renting a room’ is that our clients really do end up sharing lives. They are not just roommates—they become blended families.” —Heidi Bruce

from:    http://www.yesmagazine.org/issues/making-it-home/6-ideas-for-sensible-homes